Meetings

Monthly meetings are free and all are welcome

PFLAG Princeton, serving all of Central New Jersey, meets on the second Monday of each month. Our meetings begin at 7:00 PM and generally run until around 9:00 PM. Starting with our April meeting we will meet virtually using the Zoom video conferencing service. More information about our virtual meetings can be found on our Virtual Meetings page.

Be reassured that this group is a safe place for you to express your feelings OR to just listen to what others have to say.  All conversations are confidential.  At each of our meetings, we begin by checking in with each of our members as well as new parents and friends who are attending for the first time.  Often, our entire meeting time is devoted to discussion and support group activities designed to encourage old and new members to discuss issues and events which are significant in their lives, and share their experiences with the others.

As we decide on speakers and programs for meetings, from time to time we will change the listings below accordingly so that you know what to expect.  We do include time for group discussion at every meeting, whether there is also a program or not.

Complete 2022 Calendar of Meetings and Events

  • January 10th – Peer-facilitated discussion and information sharing in a safe, confidential, non-judgmental setting.
  • February 14th – We will be joined by Gordon Sauer and Alex Lawrence from GLSEN to discuss creating safe spaces for LGBTQ+ students in school followed by peer-facilitated discussion and information sharing in a safe, confidential, non-judgmental setting.
  • March 14th – Peer-facilitated discussion and information sharing in a safe, confidential, non-judgmental setting.
  • April 11th – We will be joined by married couple Connelly Akstens and Susanne Murtha.  
    • Connelly Akstens, PhD, has been active for years in transgender advocacy as a speaker for SpeakOUT Boston and at many conferences. She teaches Shakespeare and the History of Ideas at SUNY/ Empire State College and has been an award-winning feature writer for Adirondack Life and many other magazines and journals. As a musician, Connelly has released five CDs of original and American roots music. She is a licensed Adirondack guide and an avid gardener.
    • Susanne Murtha, BCC, NBC-HWC, C-IAYT, is passionate about helping others focus on and fulfill their best intentions. She is a National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach who works at Hinge Health to support members learning to manage chronic pain. Formerly a professional graphic designer Susanne designed and produced Without Shame: Learning to Be Me. She is active in an employee ally group is dedicated to being an ally to Connelly and other diverse people.
    • Following Connelly and Susanne will be peer-facilitated discussion and information sharing in a safe, confidential, non-judgmental setting.
  • May 9th –  Peer-facilitated discussion and information sharing in a safe, confidential, non-judgmental setting.
  • June 13th – We will be joined by Anthony Mazakas (they/them), a current social work student at Rutgers University, to discuss how the developmental life stages impact the way children experience their genders, followed by peer-facilitated discussion and information sharing in a safe, confidential, non-judgmental setting.
  • July 11th – Peer-facilitated discussion and information sharing in a safe, confidential, non-judgmental setting.
  • August 8th
    • We will be joined by Dr. Dennis Flores who will discuss the results of The G.I.S.T. Project (Gender Inclusive Sex Talks), a study conducted last year about the ways discussions about sexual health take place between parents and transgender and gender diverse children. Barriers and facilitators to family-based sexual health promotion will be discussed along with potential next steps to ensuring that these discussions are gender-sensitive, effective and meaningful.
    • Dr. Flores is an Assistant Professor at the University of Pennsylvania School of Nursing, an affiliated faculty at the Gender, Sexuality, and Women’s Program, and is a Visiting Faculty Fellow at the Center for Research on AIDS at Yale University’s School of Public Health. He has led several studies that investigate the role of parents in the sexual health education of their adolescent children who identify as LGBTQ. His studies fuel his subsequent HIV prevention work that includes both urban and rural community education, being a national spokesperson for HIV testing campaigns, and workforce development with around 1300 nurses across three continents. Dr. Flores earned his PhD from Duke University, a Masters in Public Health Nursing Leadership at Emory University, and a Bachelors in Nursing from Kennesaw State University in Georgia.  
    • Following Dr. Flores will be peer-facilitated discussion and information sharing in a safe, confidential, non-judgmental setting.
  • September 12th – Peer-facilitated discussion and information sharing in a safe, confidential, non-judgmental setting.
  • October 10th – Peer-facilitated discussion and information sharing in a safe, confidential, non-judgmental setting.
  • November 14th – Peer-facilitated discussion and information sharing in a safe, confidential, non-judgmental setting.
  • December 12th – Join us for a presentation and discussion with a panel of Princeton University LGBT Center Peer Educators, who will share their stories, answer questions, and discuss LGBTQ+ life at Princeton, followed by peer-facilitated discussion and information sharing in a safe, confidential, non-judgmental setting.

Meeting Ground Rules

WE START AND END OUR MEETINGS ON TIME 
We try to arrive on time.  We end the meeting on time to be respectful of people’s time.  

WE KEEP CONFIDENTIAL ALL PERSONAL INFORMATION SHARED IN THE GROUP
What we share about our personal lives and experiences is to be kept absolutely confidential by all members.  We realize that meeting participants or the issues they discuss may not be out anywhere else.  What is said in the group, stays in the group. 

WE USE “I” STATEMENTS
We encourage all members to speak in the first person, using “I” statements, because we know that we learn when each of us shares our different experiences. 

WE DON’T GIVE ADVICE
We do not prescribe, diagnose, judge or give advice.  We offer peer support, not therapy or professional services.  Rather, we respect each member’s right to reach and make their own personal decisions. We listen, speak as to what has worked for us in similar circumstances, and help members to recognize and explore their options.

WE DON’T MONOPOLIZE THE GROUP’S TIME 
We are respectful of the need for all members to participate, by not talking for excessively long periods of time or talking too frequently. 

WE STAY POSITIVE 
Our group is here to support and encourage positive outcomes. 

WE HAVE THE RIGHT NOT TO SPEAK 

WE DON’T INTERRUPT OR ENGAGE IN SIDE CONVERSATIONS 

WE TURN OUR CELL PHONES OFF AND REFRAIN FROM USING THEM DURING THE MEETING